I have 7 drafts of this post, simply because I’m so torn between these two ideals that I crave.
What is stability? This isn’t a google definition, it’s mine. Stability to me is being in a comfortable place, be it physically, mentally and spiritually.
What is instability? Me, right now.
Hopefully, by writing this out and discussing it with readers, it will become clearer to me which I prefer. Also, I don’t want this post to sound like I’m experiencing culture shock or I’m sad, I’m just simply confused about where to go next 🙂
Since I started this blog, my life has been a whole insightful learning journey. Though my Instagram may show a happy independent traveler, so much in that time has changed. Some I’ve learned from and some I’m still reflecting on.
The first two years were exciting! I came out of a long term relationship and really flourished. It’s evident how much I grew as a person in that time. Though, the one thing I feared was a stable life. Going back to what I had before, I just couldn’t see it happening in the future and frankly I was afraid.
Time passed, I went back to university and after some time it felt good to know I would be in the same place for more than three months. I could actually begin to get my life together a little, focus on me and building relationships that were important to me.
I think I was right to be afraid. In this time many of the things I experienced whilst traveling happened also during the ‘stable’ time of my life. Credit to myself, I was writing my thesis and left a relationship in the USA. However, relationships (I use this term a lot, mostly relating to friendships) I thought I had with people were not the same. I made new friends, started dating and joined clubs. But it all happened so fast and before I knew it, I had to leave again. There was nothing holding me back to make me stay, making the whole year seem insignificant. Whilst I am grateful for the few friends I made at this time, I can’t take much from being there.
I moved to Prague. It happened very fast. I knew what to expect and I knew it wasn’t going to be the same, but it was going to give me some of the sense of adventure that gave me strength and growth.
I’m here now, in this beautiful city so close to other countries. The perfect place for someone like me. I’m involved with an organisation that’s allowing me to develop the skills I need to move forward in my career or even create my own charity. I’m learning Czech. I’m meeting groups of people almost every night. It’s awesome, but there is a part of me that sinks every time I get back to my studio.
It’s not culture shock, it’s different, I think all this time I’ve craved stability with people around me that make every day seem like an adventure. The thing about Prague is it has a very small population. Most of the people I meet are travelers, here on temporary contracts or aren’t planning to stay long. The time I spend in the city with the people is so valuable, that when I come home to an empty room, I realise that they’ve gone and tomorrow there will be new people. To some, this may seem exciting and it was for me at first, but now it’s getting difficult. I want to catch a train or a flight to see them and strengthen those relationships, but I can’t be in a hundred countries at once.
I don’t say goodbye to people because every single person or place I’ve felt a connection with, I’ve taken the time and means to visit. This isn’t the problem, and those who I’ve met on the road can vouch that I have kept in contact and made every effort to visit them. The problem is I’m here and everyone is everywhere else. Everyone else has a room, a job, maybe a partner or a pet to return to. They know where their place is.
Where is mine?
On multiple occasions, I’ve almost moved countries for people when I felt that it was home or could be home. It never happened for various reasons, but I can’t help think that maybe I never did this because secretly I’m still scared of this sense of stability, and maybe losing it again.
It’s certain that I leave Prague and move back to the UK in October. I love my country, but I don’t want to stay there. If I stay there, I want to bring the people I met on the way with me.